
Age UK report that more than 2 million people in England over the age of 75 live alone, and more than a million older people say they go for over a month without speaking to a friend, neighbour, or family member.
Before the pandemic, around 1 in 12 people aged 50 and over in England were often lonely. This is equivalent to around 1.4 million people.
Loss of regular daily social interactions with colleagues can be one of the hardest adjustments to make in retirement. With more time on your hands, and less weekly structure, loneliness can creep up unnoticed.
Avoid loneliness in retirement with these five positive, proactive, and fun solutions.
1. Start small with a routine and regular physical activity
Instead of having a lie-in every morning, start your day at roughly the same time by getting out of bed and into your routine before inertia has the chance to set in.
Starting your morning with physical exercise can be a great way to give yourself an early feel-good boost. It needn’t be overly ambitious. Even a gentle stretching routine can be enough to wake the body and stimulate the brain into a positive, rather than negative, cycle.
2. Fill your diary
Along with starting your days on a positive note, try adding something tangible to your diary each Monday to get your week off to a productive start.
Again, keep it simple. An activity you do alone is enough. Maybe you want to fill your fridge with batch-cooked meals for the week ahead? Alternatively, schedule an afternoon doing some gardening or use Mondays to attend appointments.
Whatever it is, make Monday a day where you get something done and feel good about it.
When you have a regular Monday activity, expand out to fill the rest of your week. A task or activity every other day will keep you focused and there’ll always be something to look forward to.
Things to consider could include:
- A walk in the park
- Going to a local coffee shop
- Browsing the shelves in your local library
- A swim or other activity at a gym or sports centre
- Seeing a movie at the cinema
- Visiting a museum.
If you like to stick to a routine and start to do the same thing at the same time each week, after a while, you may find that you see the same faces, giving you an opportunity to strike up a conversation and meet people with similar interests.
3. Sign up to the University of the Third Age and learn something new
The University of the Third Age (U3A) offers retirees the chance to learn or do something new.
Run by volunteers, U3A gives you the chance to do, play or learn something you may never have done before, or something you haven’t considered since your school days. It’s also a perfect way to meet other people and make new friends. Visit the U3A website to find out what’s going on in your local area.
4. Share your home (or your shed)
If you live alone, you could consider finding a compatible live-in companion to share your home with.
Share my Home is an organisation that matches older people with companions across the UK.
Jennifer Petch, founder of Share my Home, is an occupational therapist and set up the organisation to give older people an affordable and practical solution to remain living happily at home.
Younger companions pledge between 10 to 15 hours to help out with household chores such as shopping, cooking, cleaning, or gardening in exchange for a room and a place to call home.
Alternatively, men can join their local Men’s Shed group.
Men’s Sheds is an organisation that offers community spaces for men to connect, converse and create. Activities are similar to those of garden sheds but they are carried out in groups, so men can meet and enjoy making, mending, and building stuff together.
Many local Shed groups get involved in community projects too – restoring village features, helping maintain parks and green spaces as well as building things for schools, libraries, and people in need.
5. Volunteer your time and share your knowledge and experience
Volunteering is a great way to give back to the community and is an easy way to meet people interested in the same things as you.
There are plenty of volunteering opportunities that will welcome your experience and time. To find out what you could get involved with, visit Do-it.org, where you can search opportunities by interest, activity, or location.
Get involved during Mental Health Awareness Week
This year’s Mental Health Awareness Week, 9 – 15 May 2022, is highlighting the far-reaching problems of loneliness, their effect on our mental health, and how we can work towards reducing loneliness in our communities.
If you’re not lonely but want to help support and befriend others who are isolated, volunteer your time to meet older people who will appreciate a friendly smile or a chat.
It could be as simple as a weekly telephone call or a regular home visit for a chat and to help with shopping or a spot of cleaning or gardening. Alternatively, offer to drive an elderly person to a social event, or host a regular coffee morning for groups of older people.
Find more information from Age UK, Independent Age, or the Royal Voluntary Service, which all offer a variety of opportunities for volunteers wishing to befriend an older person.
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